Today I Learned...

I learned a lot today.  Yep.  I did.  Because I spent all morning day reading my favorite one of my favorite blogs.  For once most of what I learned is not adoption related, so I am excited to share because I know all 8 of my usual readers (5 who aren't yet part of the adoption triad) can laugh along with me today.

First, I learned why I don't get invited on many playdates.  I am not quite a stalker mom but I do have a lot of trouble reading social clues.  I probably do stay too long and talk too much.  Really, if that is what is holding you back just give me a list of written expectations--I am great at following rules if I just know them!

Then I learned that I am both succeeding and failing at the Life Cycle of the China Adoption Blog.  It warms my heart to realize that it is a natural part of the cycle to obsess over and have my emotional well-being tie into comments (or lack thereof) from random strangers that I now consider my closest friends which is in itself natural and odd.  However, I have never done a post on the anniversary of my log in date.  In an effort to correct that error I would like to point out that this Saturday is our 53rd month lid-versary.  Ummm, it is too depressing to talk about.  I will now complete that part of the cycle by not mentioning it again.

I learned that when you ignore your daughter all day to read blog posts she can and will fall down the stairs to get your attention.  Do not worry--she only fell a few steps and I think it is possible she staged it.  She did appear trapped upside down with her feet in the air and her hands behind her when I ran to in her in response to the thump and small cry.  When I picked her up she laughed.

I learned that the only reason I have not read a parenting book or blog mention that my emotional happiness or depression will at times be directly linked to my child's ability to use a toilet properly is because Tonggu husband wouldn't let Tonggu mama post on "The Ebb and Flow of Pee."  I am not saying that is what her post would have said since she was NOT allowed to post it.  But if I had a post on the ebb and flow of pee it would totally mention how depressed I can get during the potty training weeks months years.  Or how right now that Sunflower is potty training and doing great I can do the celebratory potty dance with real joy.  (This is the reason my husband wants more girls and not boys even if we adopt two.  Yeah, yeah, we know--girls can have potty issues, too, but you were. not. there.)

I learned I really hope my daughter comes from Tonggu province in China because by the time we go get her I will know how to spell Tonggu.

I learned that if my husband comes home and starts working on our to-do list I should probably stop reading blog posts and pay attention or my sister's Christmas (yes, I said Christmas, and no, I didn't mean Christmas 2011 but the one just passed) package will be completely wrapped up and ready for mailing without the checks for my niece and nephews included.