tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5828878021997028927.post6560329299335383016..comments2023-05-29T05:07:09.326-07:00Comments on Joyful Mama Gives In!: The SWI Visit Part 1Cedarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10698395427497780283noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5828878021997028927.post-11247132097409828562012-05-11T08:18:20.476-07:002012-05-11T08:18:20.476-07:00Oh so glad you got to have this visit and get the ...Oh so glad you got to have this visit and get the pics. Now you can pass it on to her when she wants. And SOOO glad the transition back to you was an uneventful one and peaceful. Ours was not. <br />Catching up,<br />nancyNancy @ Ordinary Miracles & The Crazy 10https://www.blogger.com/profile/15315696255753062618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5828878021997028927.post-42297821256342810892012-05-10T12:57:25.787-07:002012-05-10T12:57:25.787-07:00What a gift these words and remembrances will be f...What a gift these words and remembrances will be for Sweet Pea some day!! Thank you so much for documenting them for her...heh, and for us! :o)<br /><br />You mentioned Sweet Pea's Ayi picking her up and wondering about attachment. I've heard this is the one time that it might actually be good for someone else in the first <i>months</i>, to hold your baby. This is a person she knows and trusts. As much as you were watching Sweet Pea, SP was paying attention to you too. I'm guessing she knew where you were at every single moment. The fact that you were following close and interacting with her Ayi is a good thing! It allowed her little brain to bridge a gap that may have been missing due to the trauma of transition day. She was able to see the person she'd trusted for all these months, happily interacting with the new person (her forever Mommy) that she is just now beginning to build a trust relationship with. Seeing the two of you together in a positive way and then the person she trusted from the past passing her to someone she currently trusts is a HUGE piece of the puzzle that not many have an opportunity to offer their child. You did great Mom! <br /><br />From what I was told, this is the one and only time someone else should hold your baby (with the exception of Baba and siblings) for a long time. <br /><br />I kept my DD in a carrier for the first couple of months home and yes, offended some people when I would not allow then to hold her but, my responsibility was to my DD and building her trust and attachment. Even now, home 2 1/2 years, when we're having a rough day, back into the Ergo she goes and it seems to 'ground' her and remind her that mommy is still here for her...always. She still loves her Ergo! I get some strange looks carrying my 3yo around but I don't care. She is my heart and I am responsible to her, nobody else.<br /><br />SO happy you had this opportunity to learn more about SP (especially the part about Foster Care) and also thrilled for SP that she could see her Ayi and Mommy together...and it was a good thing! A huge blessing for all of you!!Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06120007274654255204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5828878021997028927.post-26174169769926073152012-05-10T10:18:25.667-07:002012-05-10T10:18:25.667-07:00Phew. I am glad to see a post. I've been thi...Phew. I am glad to see a post. I've been thinking about you so much. ;) I am so glad you were able to visit. So glad you were able to document this all for Sweet Pea. What a total blessing! Can't wait for pic's. But am soooooooo happy for the words. :)No Greater Lovehttp://www.thecroslands.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com